How to Raise the Perfect Dog- Cesar Millan

Most of you know that I’ve read this book. Many of my blog posts lately have involved this book. I finished this book last week, and it was an incredibly good book!

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Cesar buys four different breeds of puppies for the purpose of this book. He then takes you through the steps that he used to train these puppies into well-behaved members of the family. He explores the topics of preventing bad habits, how to properly introduce your puppy to it’s new home, introducing leash and collar, the fundamentals of walking properly, potty training, issues concerning pet health, vet procedures, playing with the dogs, and most importantly, your need of calm-assertiveness at all times around your pet.

Cesar provides many easy-to-follow steps to help you train your puppy at his best, and warns you of certain stages of puppyhood to watch out for. He also closes his book with an update on what has happened to these puppies and where they are at.

An incredible read, very in-depth, and recommended for everyone who has or is looking to add a puppy to the family!

Patience–I Know It’s Hard!

Patience. A word we all know. A word that we’ve been told countless times, “Patience is a virtue”. Patience. But are we really that great at being patient people? I know that I like to think that most of the time I am. But I definitely know as soon as I’m in a situation where I want the answer or I want the result NOW, I am no longer patient.

The biggest reason this word resonates with me today, is because of the dog training I’ve been doing. As I mentioned in a previous post, when teaching a new trick or a new command, you must patiently wait for the dog to figure it out. If you have a treat, the dog will want the treat and want to do what is necessary to get the treat. If you truly have the respect of your dog, the dog will try to do what it takes to please you. All you have to be is patient.

Training dogs has been a touch-and-go process. Some things are improving daily, and some things seem a little inconsistent. Especially, when my one dog, Dwight, the eldest at 3 years and the father to the puppies, is probably the most stubborn. Yesterday, I simply tried to get him to repeat a new command, “Down”, which he completed twice the day before. How long did I wait? I think around… 7 minutes. Seriously… patience. 

Now this is something that was not always natural to me. I’ve gone through a lot of life changes since the day I was born, so change was something I had no choice but to adapt to. And with change ALWAYS comes a little extra patience. Since I’m the eldest of four children in our family, 15 years between me and the youngest, I had the opportunity to practice A LOT of patience with my siblings. For quite awhile, my step-dad worked away from home, which also meant that I became another parent in the family. And I’m sure most of you know, with parenting, comes a LOT of patience.

And of course, I cannot credit enough to my career as a teacher. I think it’s incredibly difficult for someone to try your patience more than a student who doesn’t care, a student who doesn’t even want to be where his parents are making him be. That’s a true test of patience. As much as teachers are known to have “eyes” on the back of their heads, sometimes I wonder if students also have extra eyes to know just when to catch a teacher off-guard. I love my students, and I love being a teacher. But each and every day that I’m at school, I remind myself to stay in check, and be patient.

Now I looked up what the Bible had to say about patience, and it’s pretty amazing. 

Proverbs 25:15 struck me strongly. It says:
Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone.

Wow… that is pretty incredible! Patience has enough strength and power to persuade the most un-persuadable. Just like patience can teach a dog to do a trick and even figure it out on its own. Just by you being patient! Just like a stubborn student or child, sometimes all it takes is patience and the learning process will happen, the wrongs can be corrected, and things can be solved. All with the use of patience!

Colossians 3:12 says:
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

Wow. God even told us to be clothed in patience. It’s His instructions that we are patient people. Are we the stubborn children not listening to our Father?

And 1 Timothy 1:16 says:
But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life.

Not just patience this time, but immense patience. Patience like nothing we’ve ever known was displayed in Christ Jesus for us to take example from. 

Now believe me, I know it’s easier said than done, most things are. But just make a conscious effort everyday to try and practice patience. The more you practice, the easier it becomes. When you feel yourself getting angry or heated up about something, take a minute, turn around, take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and try again. Remember the power in patience and the good that it can do in so may situations. You may never be perfect, nor should you ever expect yourself to be. You are human, but what matters is that you try. You can do it, I believe in you!

Training Success

So since we’ve had these puppies, I’ve felt incredibly lost on how to properly train them. I wanted them to turn out to be those great dogs that know your every command instead of turning out like their father, our male dog Dwight, who easily gets excited and very territorial (when it comes to marking). Even their mother, our female dog Utopia, is still very skittish and doesn’t know very many commands. She’s also picked up barking since she’s had her pups. So I wanted to act fast!

My first step in this training journey was to go to Hastings, an amazing book store in the states. I all too easily could spend a full day in there, just looking at all the books (and the awesome prices!!) and probably spend my fortune (which I don’t have) on books. The bookstore is seriously my candy store.

At Hastings, I specifically looked at the pet section, looking for puppy books, and immediately stopped when I found Cesar Millan’s “How to Raise the Perfect Dog”. Bingo! There’s my book!

Although training has been slow (started this week), I believe I may have caught them in enough time to train them before the worst habits begin. I now wish, after reading most of his book, that I had read this book the minute they were born. However, I know I can only do my best from here on out.

Now, what I have been doing, for those that are interested, is taking the dogs on a daily walk. Cesar says to complete two walks a day, but unfortunately I have only fit in one so far. This walk is a structured walk meaning that they are not to sniff around while walking, they are to learn to walk comfortably, with a loose leash, directly beside you and at your pace. You should be able to walk knowing your dog is beside you all the way. We have had a few moments of rebellion (stopping, laying down, desires to sniff), but Cesar really lays out how to correct those behaviours. Basically you can give a slight pressure on the leash and then relax when they correct their behaviour, or redirect their senses by placing a bully stick in front of their nose, training them to sounds that will tell them you need them to do something, etc. And I haven’t had much of a problem correcting those moments. It has by no means been perfect yet, but it has been good for them.

I’m also trying to teach the puppies, and their mother Utopia, how to sit. Dwight knows it off by heart and also does stay pretty well. I’m working on getting out of his sight and then calling him to come. I’m very proud of him. He’s also the only dog who can walk past the others while they’re whining to him without even turning his head. He’s pretty solid!

So the sitting process has been… interesting. The puppies are always so excited that sometimes I wonder if they are actually sitting because I’m telling them to, or if that’s just because that’s what they naturally want to do because they are so excited. Either way, if I ask the command and they sit, they get the treat to reinforce the behaviour.

Now Utopia presented a very unique situation. I asked her to sit, and she just stared at me with a small wag in her tail. No distractions, just totally seeming “oblivious” to the hand movement and word I was telling her. Now thankfully, Cesar Millan also provided insight for these type of situations. Normally, I would have pushed on her back to make her/show her to sit. This is a horrible thing to do as you’re not letting your dog figure out how to please you and give you what you want. So on his advice, I repeated the command once more (don’t keep repeating it) and held the treat in the same hand I was commanding her with, and waited. Now this is the hard part… waiting until they get it. Cesar had mentioned that he waited for over 4 minutes with one of his dogs until they figured it out. Thankfully, I only had to wait around 45 seconds and she slowly sat down. Isn’t that incredible? I never would have thought that it would have worked, but she totally figured it out! All I had to do was give her time. Not that she’s any expert at it now, but she’s learning, and that’s what matters!

I’ve also been brushing their teeth. Now this has been interesting as well. I have a doggy toothbrush and doggy toothpaste. So I usually put the toothpaste on the brush, let them smell it first, and they’ll usually start licking it. All except Dwight and Utopia who know what it is, and turn their heads away. Now the boy puppies, Teddy and Roscoe, are doing very well with the teeth brushing. They aren’t “perfect” where I’d like them to be, but they are in no means disappointing me. Jewel did alright the first time, but yesterday, she cried and cried. I had to somewhat calm her down before she let me even open her mouth. I’ve got some more work cut out for her. Utopia has even improved in her teeth brushing and let me brush the most I’ve been able to yesterday. Unfortunately, Dwight has not changed much. I’m going to have to add an extra incentive for him and Jewel. Like father, like daughter. Those two are really the most similar personalities out of the bunch.

I’m also planning on clipping their nails weekly. I have done the whole “family” once. And surprisingly enough, the boy puppies had an amazing time. Jewel, once again, was like her father and cried. But I did manage to calm her down between clippings to get the rest done. Utopia always seems almost “frozen” when I do this so in some way she’s easy, but Dwight would jump down if I gave him the chance. But he’s actually not half bad.

So it’s been a long learning curve for me, correcting behaviours in our older dogs and training each of them. But I am so thankful for the knowledge I’ve been provided in this book. And if you’re thinking of getting a dog, I highly recommend that you read his book. You will never regret it!

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A Long Time Coming…And The Hardest Thing

Hello everyone.

I am so incredibly sorry for the vast amount of time that has passed since my last posting. It has been crazy trying to get 5 dogs up-to-date on shots, paperwork completed, let alone finishing up school, testings, report cards, cleaning a classroom SPOTLESS for summer, and then trying to wrap up my own home and pack to leave the country for a month. I’m sure I’ve mentioned it before, but there should really be more hours in a day! I could use some!

So, my puppies have now passed the 3 month mark. Actually, probably closer to 3 1/2. I know sometimes people totally look at us like we’ve lost our minds when we tell them that we have 5 dogs, but really, we love them so much.

My husband and I celebrated our first anniversary a week ago in Santa Fe, New Mexico. It was my first time ever being there, and we really had the time of our lives. I will write more about this adventure in another blog post (and yes, I’ll do my best to blog more) but an unexpected present we got while we were gone, was photos of our babies.

My husband’s brother is a very talented photographer (though he claims he doesn’t like taking “people pictures”). Our three puppies are so rambunctious, I don’t know how he even got them to settle down. But I will share a couple of those photos with you:

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My 3 babies together, from left to right: Jewel, Teddy, Roscoe.

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ImageTeddy as a gentleman.

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ImageRoscoe as a Cowboy! (Roscoe was lucky and got two!)

Not only are these babies simply adorable and absolutely made our anniversary night, the two adults that I came home to absolutely stole my heart. I took this picture as I simply had to capture the moment:

ImageDwight on the left, Utopia on the right… on the deck in the rising sun. Romance at its best.

Don’t these animals just steal your heart away? I know they do ours…

Unfortunately, we have played around with the idea of parting with some of our dogs. It would absolutely have to be to someone we know and trust, but now that we’ve thought about it, figured we could start with one, even talked with someone about it, I find myself having an incredibly hard time accepting it now. My motherly love is on full-power right now. I just can’t imagine splitting up that group, that family group of babies right now. They make life incredibly hard sometimes, I mean, who has the money to board 5 dogs if you want to go away? Or who is crazy enough to watch 5 dogs?

I’m having a really hard time. I was so ok with it earlier, and now I’m struggling. I feel like i have to give up a piece of my own family, and I don’t want to do that anymore. Seriously, my husband and I have 5 dogs and a skinny pig. Not planned, but just kind of happened that way. Our lives have been crazy, and unfortunately the crazy isn’t about to stop. I do hope that someday things will seem to have some type of path so that we’ll at least feel like we know what’s around the next corner in our journey, but things like international marriage have made that a little difficult for us.

I don’t know what to do, other than pray. And I ask, for anyone reading this, if you could seriously pray for us. I know to some people, it would just be a “puppy” or just another “dog”, but to us, who have no plans to have children, these are our children, and it’s hard.

Thank you to everyone reading this, and I wish you all the best! God bless!

4 Weeks Old!

Hello again everyone,

Life has been insanely busy! I’ve got to find a better way of managing time, or making time (too bad it isn’t possible!). Sometimes I wish there was more time in a day. Sadly, I think t hat would just make me more tired. Do you ever feel like you wish there was more time?

So the puppies have officially passed their 4 week old mark! They continue to grow adorable and interactive! They are entering a playful era. They are playing with toys, running around (though still clumsy), and biting each other. Dwight, the father, has even taken a slight interest in them, though dont’ get me wrong, both parents are incredibly jealous! Here are some pictures of their 4 week, one day birthday 🙂
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Our little boy.

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Our second little boy.

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Our little girl.

My husband and I are getting so attached to these little guys! My sister and I laugh about it because she had sent me a picture on Facebook before I knew that Utopia was pregnant of a car sticker that had a woman and 4 dachsunds and called me the crazy dachshund lady. Now I have 5 and I’m not sure if I can part with them! Oh boy…

I did just finish watching the movie “Beethoven”. I can at least be thankful I have 5 dachshunds instead of 5 St. Bernards…. 🙂

My Baby Took His First Steps!!

I feel like such a happy parent (or grandparent?)! My husband and I don’t have children, or rather we don’t have human children. We consider our pets our children, and thus, our new puppies our grandchildren. I hate to say it, theoretically, that is how it should go. But I’m too young to be a grandmother… so they still feel like children.

Our puppies are now 2 1/2 weeks old. Their eyes are completely open, and they are super adorable! So many times do we catch them whining because they are out of their bed, and crawling around aimlessly on the floor. Their legs have not gained full strength as of yet, so when they call, it is a struggle.

I was sitting on my couch, watching the little puppies in their bed. The smallest one, the little brown, male puppy, had crawled out of the bed and on the floor. I don’t pick them up right away just to see what they will do. And to my complete amazement and surprise, he took his first steps!! There in front of my eyes, he took his first steps! He may be tiny, but he sure is showing strength faster than the bigger two. I was so proud! I called my husband over to come see him take steps. They were staggered, and not incredibly stable, but they were steps nonetheless! What a proud Momma 🙂

It’s amazing how the small things can make such a big impression; can lift up your spirits so much. We take walking for granted, but watching something so precious and tiny as a puppy walk for the first time was one of the greatest gifts to behold.

Don’t take anything for granted, but in everything be thankful. Each day is a gift. Find the beauty, however small, in each breath you breathe.

My little babies sleeping. This is the first time I've seen the black boy sleeping on his back! Too cute!

My little babies sleeping. This is the first time I’ve seen the black boy sleeping on his back! Too cute!

A Fantastic Husband

Having these puppies in our lives has been a new adventure. Making sure their mother is giving them what they need and also assuring that she has what she needs has been the constant focus for us lately.

Prior to having the puppies, I would have assumed that a “motherly instinct” would naturally kick in and be more evident than any fatherly emotions. Boy was I wrong!

Since the puppies have been born, my husband has been so attentive to them! On average throughout the day, he probably checks on them once every hour. That’s only a normal check. The numbers raise as he also runs to them each time they whine (quite often!). He always makes sure that she is laying the proper way and helps guide them into the proper position to feed.

I have never seen my husband be so interested and fatherly to any human baby, but even a human baby would be spoiled if my husband were to treat them the same way he is treating these puppies. Let’s just say they have my husband wrapped around their little fingers (paws?).

I was sitting on the couch tonight, and just realized how amazing my husband is. He may be rough around the edges, and can come across as “mean” sometimes, being that my honest is so honest that he can be brutally honest at times. But as I was watching him with Utopia and and her puppies, there was nothing but kindness and gentleness, and a pure desire to provide his best for them.

Utopia had not been eating, and would leave her puppies more frequently than we would have liked to try and find other “food” in the kitchen. We had her dog food bowl next to her bed, so we were unsure as to why she would not eat it. Before my husband went to bed, he tried sitting beside her and feeding her by hand. Wouldn’t you know, she ate it. And my husband sat there, feeding her by hand, until she was done eating, being as kind and as gentle as possible.

My husband feeding Utopia.

My husband feeding Utopia.

I truly love my husband. Since we’ve known each other, our lives have been a roller coaster of ups and downs, never knowing what each day would bring. Looking over that time, we’ve truly grown together, and despite our sometimes extremely difficult circumstances, have stuck together and conquered every situation as of yet. We’re definitely stronger together, and I really appreciate that he always picks up in areas that I lack, and I try to do the same for him. He may not be perfect, and he may not do everything I would like, but he does have good intentions and showers me with the love I need at the times I need it most. I absolutely love him and could not ask for anyone better.

A Pleasant Surprise (Or two)

It has taken me awhile to get to writing this, but it has been quite a busy time since my last posting. 

I went to bed Wednesday evening, setting my alarm clock 20 minutes later than normal knowing that I had not gotten much sleep at all this week. Of course, I still did not get to sleep in. In fact, I was awoken by my husband earlier than the normal time that I wake up (4:00 am). His reason being… our dog was giving birth!

A little background on my dogs is needed to explain how this event came to be. Before marrying my husband, I had lived in a much smaller town with a roommate who is a fellow teacher. She had a dog, so my male dog and her male dog were friends and were used to be around each other all of the time. 

There came a time that my roommate didn’t like the way that the dogs “rough and tumbled” with each other as we took our dogs to school with us each day and didn’t want her dog to play too roughly with her kids (she taught grades K-2). So I started keeping my dog, Dwight, in my room with me more often and naturally, he became somewhat depressed that he couldn’t play with another dog anymore. So started the search for a companion for my dog.

After much searching, we found a blonde miniature dachshund (Dwight is a brown one) and we fell in love instantly. I laugh looking back at the day we picked her up. We put her in the car, and Dwight literally sat in the back window of the car. He was so unimpressed. I’m not sure if it was because she was a female or because our attention was on her, but this was definitely not the reaction we were hoping for. 

You would think that eventually they would have been best of friends, but it took an extremely long time for Dwight to accept her at all. Even to this day, when he tries to play with her, she sits down and puts her nose in the air as if to say “No way!”. And if we give any attention to her, he runs over to interrupt and get all of the attention for himself. What a dog! So the pregnancy came as a bit of a surprise to say the least. And, needless to say, she is getting fixed after this.

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This is Dwight and Utopia in their Christmas sweaters given as gifts from their Grandma Furrow for Christmas 2012.

So early morning delivery was quite a surprise. Neither my husband nor I had ever been present at a puppy “birthing” before, so we were hoping all would go well. But when he had noticed she was giving birth, we noticed the puppy still seemed “attached” to her. After some investigating, it was. For some reason, Utopia (the mom) had seemed to clean all of the puppy, but the umbilical cord was still attached. I completely am so thankful for my husband as he looked up on the internet what to do, and he himself tied the floss and and cut the umbilical cord. I don’t know what I’d do without that man!

I tried to set up a box and towel for her, but she seemed so unsettled and very shaky. She had never had a litter before either, so I’m guessing she was a little scared. She didn’t stay in the box though. She carried her puppy over to her pink bed, and as the one puppy was feeding, we noticed her stomach literally jumping up and down. We didn’t think much of it as she was still licking the puppy, acting as if nothing was going on. It didn’t take long until I noticed something black… and there was number two! This one she delivered totally on her own. They were the two most beautiful little puppies. Both black. I took some pictures, and she seemed to be relaxing with her puppies, and unfortunately had to get ready and leave for work at 6:00 am. 

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Utopia with her two black puppies before I left for work. She was doing so good!

So after I had gotten to work, I went about my usual morning routine: change the date on the board, double check the permission slips and money (it was a field trip day) and setting up my laptop, and attending teachers worship. My students came in, we had worship together, and I shared with them my surprise: pictures of the puppies. The students were happy and questioned whether there would be only two. Since we had less than half and hour until we had to leave, I allowed the students to play Four Corners in the classroom (they love that game!). Meanwhile, I stepped out of my classroom as my husband had called. I returned his call, and a huge surprise, there was a third puppy! I do not have a picture yet of the third puppy, but he is much lighter in colour than the other two. Sort of a mix of Dwight’s brown and Utopia’s blonde. I was so excited and of course I have students telling me “I told you so!”. They are the absolutely most adorable, tiny creatures. I can hardly wait for them to open their eyes and start walking around. 

Utopia has been a phenomenal mother. Anytime they start whining, she always tries to see what is wrong. She literally spends all day in her bed with them, and any time Dwight goes near them, she growls. We were worried how she would be as a mother, but we could not have asked for anything better. She is a pure example of extreme dedication to her babies. Sometimes we even go to her bed and lift the food and water bowls to her face so she can eat or drink since she hates leaving her puppies for anything. 

What a surprise! But now that I’m thinking… I’ll share my second surprise that happened that day. This surprise involves my students.

As I already mentioned, we had a field trip that day. Normally, my husband would come on the field trip with me as an adult supervisor, but with the puppies being born, he was not attending today. So I had my class on my own. Three of my students did not show up, so I had a total of 18 students for this trip. To add an extra twist, we were not taking the bus, we were walking to our location, in the city. I have to admit, I was worried. Even when I’m at school, I do not trust my students when they are left alone. I have a class that is overly talkative, and seem to get into mischief whenever I’m not in the room.

On our walk, my students were very responsible in waiting for traffic lights, walking quickly and staying on the sidewalks. At the center we were at, my students went through their activities with no troubles at all. At lunch time, I became the most worried.

At our location, there is a large room, set up with tables for large groups to eat. Only 5 of my students were ready to sit and eat right away. The rest of my students either needed a microwave (in a downstairs party room) or to buy their lunch (at the downstairs cafeteria). All of a sudden, I needed to be 3 places at once. 

Knowing this would be a test that could either show me my mistakes and teach me a lesson that I would learn forever, or completely shock me about my students, I had no choice but to leave the few students upstairs and go downstairs with the others, walking back and forth between the party room and the cafeteria. I was even questioning whether some of my students knew how to price food with gst involved without running over the amount of money they had.

They all made it through the line without a problem and I was the last person to go back upstairs to the eating room. I was expecting to see messes on the tables, students running around, etc. To my complete surprise, there were my students, occupying 3 tables, all sitting down and eating at a beyond acceptable noise level. Where did I get these students from?

Since some students were done eating before others, they began organizing and playing their own “Four Corners” in the room we were in (nobody else was in there) and I honestly could never have been more proud at how well they cleaned after themselves and for their excellent behaviour. 

After lunch, we spent time going through the 4 exhibits that were set up, and each time we moved to a new exhibit, they were very cooperative with lining up and leaving at the times that were set. They were having such a good time! 

Even when we left and stopped at the gift shop on the way out, they were so good at making sure they had enough money for what they wanted and lining up in their pairs to get ready to leave. 

The difference between being at school and being on our field trip was literally night and day. I have struggled so much with this class this year, and I was almost in tears about how good and responsible they had become on this field trip. This is one out of the very few days from this school year that I would repeat again. I left school that day being the happiest I’ve been in quite awhile. I left loving and appreciating my students. 

Sometimes when life gets tough, and those times last for quite awhile, you need those little unexpectedly “surprising” moments. I had that today. I often wonder if my students really know how much I care about them and want them to become the kind and responsible students that I know they can be, instead of seeing me as the teacher who tells them what to do or doesn’t let them have “fun”. I sometimes feel like some students must think I hate them from the amount I have to basically stand over them to make sure they are actually working and focusing on what they are supposed to be doing. In fact, I almost died once when one of my students asked if I hated them. But that same student later came to me and said that he loved me (clarified as a teacher for sure) and it gave me assurance that at least some of them do. 

I hope, for all of you that are struggling in life, that you know you are not alone. There are always people who are struggling, and often many people struggling with the same problems that you are. But it is my prayer that you have the surprises that you need to get through the tough times. Hold on tight to those good moments, because it is the good moments that will get you through.

And for those of you that are teachers, never give up on your students. I have had some of the worst struggles with this class, and it has been 8 months for my students to show me that they can be responsible. Sometimes the students you struggle with the most are the very students you’ll learn to appreciate the most. I’m not perfect with this, but taking time (Time? What time? Find time.) with each student and knowing them on a more personal level is entirely key to having those students know that you care and therefore making them want to impress you. I teach grade 6, so this is extremely important to me while they are going through their pre-teen years: thinking that they are teens already and they know everything, when in reality, they are still very much children. Your students will often be a result of the amount of time and effort you invest in them. It gets harder and harder as the generations seem to become more difficult to deal with, but there will be a day that they will catch you off-guard and make you smile and cry. Hold on to those moments as deeply as possible so that you have a mental image of the good inside of each of your students. Some days you’ll need to reflect on these images when the bad behaviours are present. Nobody will ever understand the difficulty of a teacher’s job with the emotional distress and physical stress involved, but I applaud teachers for the work they do and the part of their lives that they give their students. As Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”